“Nature will unapologetically weed your genes out of existence if you don’t take action and learn how to attract women now. Do I have your attention?”
—Mystery, The Mystery Method
I hear stories about Libertarian men not being able to catch libertarian women (no they are not Pokémon, and they are not as easy to snag as Rattat—I hope).
These freedom loving men just have insecurities about dating. They are unsure about how to approach women. Their game is rusty or lacking. So they languish away, frustrated as the needs of their heart and body go unmet. Therefore, they air their grievances online, only to compound and intensify their woes.
And sadly, it seems like every time they make comments about their frustration, some anarchist women come out of the woodwork to criticize them.
These women say anarchist men are too hung up on their philosophy, too concerned with bashing Statists, and too concerned with logical mastery. In other words, these women make their fellow anarchist men feel worthless and asexual.
For instance, Lily Goldberg wrote an article titled, “Dear Anarcho-Capitalist Guys: No, We Will Never Sleep With You.”
The title is harsh and condescending itself, but what she said is downright cruel:
“The reason more women don’t identify as libertarian? It’s the men who identify as libertarian. Because exceptions like Austin or Judd Weiss notwithstanding, they suck. So much so that asking why more women don’t want to be libertarian is like asking why more women don’t want to be strippers, but worse, because libertarian women aren’t getting paid to get pawed and yapped at by oblivious losers.”
Their critiques may be right about some libertarian men in some instances, but I do not accept this thinly veiled misandry as legitimate or helpful. Some men simply have never learned how to court women or what techniques to use that will help them find a partner. They are not all “oblivious losers,” contrary to what this entitled woman has to say about the matter.
I believe all men have some tricks they can leverage to pickup the coldest anarchist woman, or any woman for that matter. And they don’t have to defer to anyone who tries to make them feel ugly or inadequate.
The Truth About Women and Attraction
I have a couple of pieces of dating advice that may be less degrading and help enhance the anarchist man’s ego, as well as his pickup skills. He might even get to bed a libertarian vixen. But first, he has to learn the truth about women and attraction.
Like everyone, women are definitely attracted to looks—but that is just the tip of the iceberg. Women have complicated emotional and attraction circuitry. They tend to gravitate toward men with clout, charisma, and social exuberance. They blush at sight of the alpha male.
But don’t be fooled. An alpha male is not necessarily the guy with bulging biceps, a Rolex, or three story mansion. In the mind’s eye of a woman, a man’s perceived social value, style, and gregariousness can trigger her urge to mate with him.
This viewpoint of what women are attracted to has been thoroughly fleshed out by the pickup artist community, especially by Erik Von Markovik and his book The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women into Bed.
He said, “My method is based on female psychology, so it works regardless of your looks or money.”
The Venusian Arts; How I Seduced My Wife
When I was single, before I met my lovely wife, I was really into the pick up artist community. That is when I read Mystery’s books.
The essence of his teachings hinges on turning dating into a strategy game, which is intrinsically appealing to libertarian men’s logical, nerdy natures. In other words, he trains men to disguise their thinking maneuvers as emotional maneuvers, which may later transform into actual intimate contact with a woman.
Overall, His book contained valuable insights regarding the Venusian arts (art of lovemaking), dating, and seduction. I will just cover a couple of ideas that I personally employed to seduce, court, and fall in love with the love of my life.
Disqualification as a Potential Suitor
The single most important idea to remember is that women are attracted to what they believe they cannot have (aren’t we all), and men they do not perceive as just being after a sexual rendezvous. Therefore, a man should always disqualify himself as a potential suitor.
When I met my future wife in a bookstore, I happened to be reading the Mystery Method. So I decided to practice a few of the moves. This took courage, but it is what men are socially expected to do.
Men can open conversation with a girl in a number of ways, but never say “do you come here often.” Try to be more creative and less obvious.
I introduced myself by making a joke about the book she was about to purchase. As soon as I grabbed her attention, I said, “you remind me of my little sister.”
This is one easy and elegant way for a man to disqualify himself as a suitor. This technique immediately made my wife wonder about my motives. It also put her off guard, because it telegraphed that I am not only interested in sex. It made her feel at ease and allowed flirtation to occur more natural and spontaneously.
The second most important idea that I put into practice was to escalate kino, or to start making physical contact.
Physical contact at any stage of the game can act as a barometer for her level of attraction toward a man. If she allows her “disqualified suitor” to gently touch her shoulder, shake her hand, or provide a delicate touch, it is likely a sign that she enjoys his company. She may even be sexually attracted to him.
When I was gaming my wife, I escalated kino by being silly and clever. I performed a palm reading on her. I asked her to show me her hand and if I could read her “heart lines.” This allowed me to gently touch her hand, and it also created ample opportunity for humor and interesting conversation (especially since I had no idea what I was doing).
At the end of this short pickup session, I was feeling confident and tried to kiss her. This failed, but I got her number nonetheless. We went on a date a week later and everything grew organically from that initial contact.
Pick Up Artistry and Possible Predatory Behavior
These techniques will allow a man to pick up women and get sex; but if he is like me, he may want to get discover love and intimacy. My recommendation is that he should use PUA (pickup artist) techniques as a stepping stone to eventual emotional and intimate contact with a woman.
Simply gunning for sex can be interpreted as predatory behavior, but if the woman plays along she is not a necessarily victim, but co-conspirator in the unfolding drama of courtship.
Indeed, some women see the Venusian arts as misogynistic, but I don’t see anything wrong with using ones innate talent for game theory to meet, befriend, and make love with beautiful women.
It worked for me, and I am now the happiest I have ever been with a life companion.
Libertarian Women, Black Market Romances, and Emotional Contact
The aforementioned concepts can help libertarian men start gaining skills for picking up any woman in public, but they must tailor their techniques and goals to grabbing the attention of the libertarian minded women they prefer.
The best way for libertarian men to secure these black market romances—or courtships between dissidents—is to use the internet and all online anarchist gateways.
Many women who share the values of freedom are oftentimes active in cyber communities. In this sense, the man should focus his flirtation activities online. However, he should be subtle and not just talk about anti-government activity or conspiracy theories. He should demonstrate his capacity for emotional connection and humor, and inbox women with commentary that is not about her looks or a sexually lewd comment.
Here, he should keep Mystery in mind. Telling a woman she is beautiful or that he wants to have sex with her will only turn her off. Remember: disqualification as a suitor is of primary importance.
This is one area where some criticisms against anarcho-capitalist men are likely true. If they push too hard or convey their personality as insufferable, they will never have an opportunity to put their Venusian art skills into practice. And they certainly will not make amazing lovers.
Libertarian men have a lot of intelligence and power. They should liberate those skills and use them in the service of finding romance, because in the end it is about discovering love and emotional closeness. The hot sex is just a benefit of getting close to a woman who has similar interests and passions.
Don’t got to catch em’ all—just one.
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